1. What are your top 3 tips or tricks to 'ignite your passion'? How does one dive into the world of sexuality and exploration? Wonderful question! Nothing beats the shared energy of kindness, acceptance and a loving connection (for yourself and a partner) as a foundation for the following tips:
Playful Sensual Exploration
Mindfulness, Tantra and BDSM all speak of our senses as a gateway to deeper and spicier experiences! Imagine a candle lit room (or a sexy dark dungeon), sensual music playing in the background, aphrodisiac foods such as strawberries and dark chocolate are fed to you by your lover, while you’re getting a slow tantalizing massage awakening your whole body. Add a blind fold and some ice for an additional element of a surprise and focus on receiving and being in the now. No worries about performing or reaching a goal. Complete surrender into the pleasure. What an amazing way to awaken all 5 senses!
Separation of Giving and Receiving
We tend to tirelessly work at helping our partners experience pleasure and engage in sexual play at the same time. Try separating giving and receiving – there’s not a bigger gift that we can offer to others than our full focused attention. Ask your lover to completely relax and receive. Play with them for a long while (30-40) – starting with a non sexual massage first, then slowly brining them close to climax but not letting them explode just yet.
Tease and Denial
There are multiple ways in which we can play with orgasms: orgasm denial is one of them. Seduction, tease and denial are some of the common techniques Dominatrix use a lot in their practice as do Tantric practitioners. Next time you’re playing with your partner – try this little game called Edging. After a prolonged foreplay, start playing with their genitals using lots of coconut oil – slowly getting them aroused and approaching the point of no return. You can add in an element of DS: “Your orgasm belongs to me, please ask for a permission to cum as you’re getting close.” Continue playing with them taking them to the edge multiple times but not letting them orgasm. Once you’re ready to let them climax, their experience will be much stronger and more pleasurable. They may also start experiencing Energy Orgasms channeling the accumulated sexual energy along the spine out of the top of the head.
2. What are the main differences between solo and partnered exploration when it comes to sexuality?
I believe that solo exploration is the foundation for our self-knowledge. When we’re self aware and are in touch with our fantasies, bodies, emotions – we are a lot more open as lovers and also are better able to communicate our likes and dislikes to our partners. Partnered exploration contains two energies woven into one – amazing playground for mutual exploration, reflection and personal growth. Open communication, kindness and alignment help us have amazing enriching sexual experiences.
3. Why do you think sex and sexuality plays such a significant role in our motivation and interactions with others?
Our sexuality is a very powerful energy source. It’s considered to be our life force and the creative power we emanate from within. That’s why it is very important to not block, suppress, yet express it in ways that are unique to each of our essences. Of course, while embracing this powerful and beautiful energy source, we also need to be mindful of being consensually respectful of others.
4. After discovering a new personal turn-on, what is the most effective way to communicate that to a partner?
I think what is important in communicating with the partner about any topic (including sexual fantasies/preferences) is non-defensiveness, honesty and vulnerability on the part of the communicating partner as well as openness, love and judgement free space holding on the side of the receiving one. When we learn our own preferences and accept them as healthy, unique and beautiful – we can honestly communicate these to our loved ones. Below are a few ways how one may communicate their fantasies, and ask for feedback:
“Would love to try this play idea out – it looks so hot (pointing to a movie screen or mentioning a show, article etc. where it may have appeared), is it ok with you?” “I feel a bit self conscious talking to you about sexuality, but I’m trying to communicate better in order to make our sex life even more wonderful. Could you please support me through it?” “I’d love to tell you about some of the fantasies/things that turn me on and my fear is that you may judge me or think less of me – could you please listen openly and just receive?”
5. What motivated you to enter into the field of pleasure expertise?
I was born in Russia and had a typical conservative Soviet Union upbringing. Growing up I have struggled with the overbearing constellation of rigidity, conformity, social conditioning and puritanism. This really affected me in limiting, self-separating and numbing ways. I’ve realized that I needed to embrace my essence, and break out of the shell. Having gone through a deep personal transformation myself physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually – my heart's biggest desire is to help others discover their gifts and live fuller lives. I’m called to help others embrace their authenticity and guide them towards a more fulfilled, pleasurable and happy life full of love and passion.
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6. What is one sex toy, position, and location that everyone should try at least once?
Toy: The Hitachi Magical Wand – I call it “Industrial Strength” vibrator ☺ Great for forced clitoral orgasms and sexy perineal stimulation!!
Position: missionary with a twist – eye contact to add depth and intensity, her hips are raised with a pillow (or feet resting on his shoulders) and his very shallow thrusts, aiming towards her belly button for her G-spot stimulation and squirting pleasure
Sex Clubs: great for experiencing your exhibitionist, voyeuristic or kinky side.
Evguenia is a founder of SpiritSexLab - Your guide to Breathtaking Sex – Playful Spirituality & Life full of Creativity and Passion. An accredited Energy Therapy Practitioner and a passionate Sex Educator who graduated from the World’s Premier Hands-on healing program.Follow her on FB, Instagram and YouTube
